Everyone is making a list of resolutions this month. Some are just adding things in their heads, others are actively pinning them on a cork board and most bloggers have already published an article on it. But, in my mind, before you set an objective for the new year and stick with it, you have to start with a lesson. Something 2016 taught you, a way in which it changed you or drove you to this new-found ambition to make resolutions happen.
I, for one, have learned that:
1.Taking a leap of faith is easier than it seems. Movies keep on telling us the same thing, yet we fail to follow through because we fear failure. I did too, but this year small things showed me the contrary. For example, I started cooking of Jamie Oliver’s recipes, from relatively easy soups to stuffed turkey on Thanksgiving.
I could have failed every single time (hey, I started cooking a bit more than a batch of cupcakes just two years ago) but I didn’t! Miraculously, it all turned out good, from the first try, because I never once questioned my ability to cook right. Focus+work+love (for what you do) = success.
2.Trials will only make you appreciate more what you already have. Doubts, unthinkable actions, what-ifs are not always signs that it’s time to change your life. Second thoughts shouldn’t make you abandon ship – not always. They can be great moments to see what you already have. See it again, see it with fresh eyes, like in the beginning. The work is dull? Try to go back at your first day at the job, try to remember what made you so hopeful then and it will all come back to you – the thirst of doing something worthwhile in this world.
3.There’s nothing ridiculous in putting money aside. In just two days after pay day, I used to spend half of the money. By the time the next check came in, I was broke. Now, I make one or two investments (beauty, clothes, hairstylist, presents, books or workshop, etc.), pay the bills, keep something for nights out and put money aside for a rainy day. The thought of saving used to make me feel old-fashioned, but this year I totally saw the importance of it.
4. Staying grounded keeps your friends closer and your enemies, farther. This year was a lucky one for me for several reasons, including what I was able to do career-wise. Praise from friends, a general sense of real progress can make people a bit arrogant, entitled. I was careful not to fall into this trap; success (as I see it) can come and go so easily, it’s never wise to rest on your laurels.
5.Don’t plan; do! I’ve been talking about revamping the blog, focusing on designers’ stories and sharing every bit of cool info from the fashion world with you guys since 2015. Yet, just this year I really got into it – bought a theme, made hundreds of adjustments to it, took the time to write the editorial plan and see what could I do with the resources that I have. Until that point, it was a simple plan I loved to talk about but in which nobody believed anymore.
How could they, when they didn’t see me actually doing all of it? The same thing happened with my Photoshop skills; they languished after months of avoiding the program. I won’t even tell you about my pitiful attempts of getting my butt of this chair and going to the gym REGULARLY!!!
6.If you want something done, do it yourself. I’ve always had this need to make things right, to be treated right, to act right, to see things go just right. So, in college, when I had a group assignment, I would do my part and (even though I knew the others were slacking) waited for the absolute last minute to check if the others had done theirs. I hated having to do everything myself, so I’d rather get a bad grade than work for another. It just wasn’t right!
This year, as all previous years, I came up with an idea, talked it over at work and waited for something. A “no or yes”, an idea of improvement, a series of tasks neatly delegated, a timeline… but nothing came or it came too late. Thing was, everybody had its own priorities and I had to take matters into my own hands if I wanted to see them a reality.
I know, it’s a no-brainer what I’m telling you here. But I was still waiting to be told what to do or helped (I had done my part, had the idea!) instead of taking the initiative. Once I figured this out, things moved, changed, improved; I was working to see them through, regardless of the outcome.
When you believe in something, work for it. Don’t wait for others to make your dream a reality, learn how to do it yourself.
This year, I’m gonna do my best to not only remember them, but act on them. Let’s be do-ers, instead of planners. What about you – what did 2016 teach you?